The majority of people in this city are alcoholics and I’m tired of pretending like we’re not

Navigating a Social Landscape Dominated by Alcohol: A Personal Reflection

In many social settings within our city, alcohol seems to be an almost unavoidable component of interaction. As someone who chooses not to drink, I often find myself feeling out of place or pressured to conform, even when I’d rather not partake. This post is a personal vent—a reflection on my experiences rather than a call for solutions.

It’s common for social activities to revolve around drinking. For example, I might go rock climbing with friends and discover some had drinks beforehand at work. After finishing our climb, the group often heads to a pub for more drinks. It’s become routine.

Almost every date I’ve been on recently has involved alcohol. When someone asks if I drink, I respond honestly—I do, but not always. Sometimes, I just prefer to skip it altogether and wish the pressure to indulge would subside.

Even outdoor activities aren’t exempt. Planning a six-hour hike? Sure, I’ll bring some cans in my bag. Going pottery painting? Usually, the suggestion is to get a bit “pissed,” as if that’s the only way to have fun. Museums or cultural outings are often quickly followed by, “Oh, look at that pub—let’s go there.”

The social scene here seems intertwined with drinking at every turn. All my friends drink, and at 30 years old, I find it challenging to forge new connections outside these social norms. Work environments often feature free beer and wine, making after-hours socializing inevitably centered around alcohol.

Even outdoor recreational activities like badminton frequently lead to group attempts to persuade me to join them for drinks afterward. It’s as if the social expectation is to normalize alcohol consumption in every facet of life.

And I can’t overlook the mention of other substances like cocaine, which also seem to be part of this social dynamic.

This isn’t about abstinence or judgment; it’s about feeling marginalized in a culture that seems to equate social success with drinking. I just want to be myself and enjoy activities without the constant expectation to consume alcohol.

Note: If you’re navigating similar experiences or feelings, remember that your choice to abstain is valid, and seeking out like-minded individuals or communities can provide support and understanding.